It’s tough starting out as a musician. But, appreciate your tough beginning. I know I don’t regret going through what I did. I use it as fuel, and so should you.
I asked a few bros on Facebook what was holding them back with music and I’d like to comment. There were a few responses, but the one that stood out the most to me was “lack of focus.”
Believe it or not, this is much more common than you think. And it’s not your fault.
You don’t know the first small step. And if you don’t know what you should do first, it’s hard to start doing it. In my experience, this happens when people try to “go it alone,” because the first step seems like common sense. They convince themselves “I don’t need help or training or coaching because I can just find what I need elsewhere for nothing,” and that’s exactly what happens… NOTHING.
This is why I’ve always been a big fan of step-by-step stuff–or some sort of mentoring, because, if nothing else, you see what other people think you should do first… and you can just do that. And force yourself into starting.
Another suggestion that really helped me with this was to clearly visualize and establish a specific result that you want to get and refuse to believe the slightest notion you might not get it. Picture it in your head, then write it down.
Example: “By March 25, 2016 we will go on a two month tour and play in x, y, and z cities.” No exceptions and no excuses.
When it comes to going after what makes us happy, and then we don’t, there’s really no penalty. And if there’s no penalty, we often postpone pursuing it, saying things like, “not today,” “I’m tired,” or “I’ll do it later.” We essentially talk ourselves out of doing what we need to do for our music.
One of the best ways to fix this is to chill with other people or musicians that will hold you accountable to pursue your music seriously, and care about you enough to call you out if you make excuses.
Do you have trouble focusing? Have you ever wanted to accomplish something and it takes way longer than you think it should? Let me know in the comments and squirrell!